Keep the brain in mind
🧠 Live online event
📅 Friday 6 February
⏰ 3.00–4.00 pm (UK / GMT)
📍 Live online – inside the free Peaceable community on Skool
💛 Cost: Free – register here and then go to the Calendar to add to your own calendar
Keep the brain in mind
A gentle, practical session on neuropsychology, conflict and your nervous system
When conversations become tense, difficult or emotionally charged, it’s rarely just about what is being said.
Very often, it’s about what your brain and nervous system are responding to in that moment.
In this live Peaceable session, we’ll gently explore how basic neuropsychology can help you understand what is really happening for you (and for others) when communication becomes difficult.
Rather than asking
“What’s wrong with me?”
or
“Why are they being like this?”
we learn to pause and ask a much more helpful question:
“What is my brain perceiving as a threat here?”
This session is about learning to keep the brain in mind when you communicate – especially in situations involving conflict, misunderstanding, emotional intensity, or fragile relationships.
Who this session is for
This session is especially helpful if you:
- find conflict or difficult conversations emotionally draining or overwhelming
- notice yourself freezing, over-explaining, withdrawing, people-pleasing or becoming reactive under pressure
- care deeply about connection and relationships
- are sensitive to emotional atmospheres and interpersonal tension
- want kinder, more realistic ways of understanding yourself in moments of conflict
You don’t need any background in psychology or neuroscience.
Everything is explained in an accessible, human and practical way.
Keep the brain in mind: What we will explore together
In a calm and supportive space, you’ll be invited to reflect on questions such as:
- What is my brain perceiving as a threat in this situation?
- What feelings do I associate with conflict, disagreement or interpersonal difficulty?
- What might actually be happening underneath the surface of the conflict?
We will gently introduce the idea of social and emotional threat responses, drawing on the SCARF model developed by David Rock, author of Your Brain at Work.
You’ll be invited to consider:
- which SCARF domains might be active in your relationships and conversations
- how your brain’s need for safety, certainty, fairness and belonging can strongly shape how you communicate
- why you sometimes respond in ways that don’t match your intentions, values or hopes for the relationship
We will also work with a simple but powerful reflection:
“What are my underlying feelings – and what unmet needs might be sitting underneath this situation?”
This helps you gently get underneath the conflict iceberg, so that you can understand yourself (and others) with more compassion and clarity.
Keep the brain in mind: What this session is – and isn’t
This session is:
- reflective
- practical
- gentle and human
- grounded in how the brain and nervous system respond in social situations
It is not therapy. You will never be asked to share anything personal unless you choose to.
Listening quietly and reflecting privately is absolutely enough.
About the ‘Keep the brain in mind’ session
The ‘Keep the brain in mind’ session is facilitated by me, Arabella Tresilian, an accredited mediator and communication specialist, and drawing directly on my work supporting people through sensitive, emotionally complex and high-impact conversations.
It is designed especially for people who care deeply about human connection – and who want tools that help them relate to others (and to themselves) with more steadiness, understanding and kindness.
How to attend
To attend ‘Keep the brain in mind’, simply join the free Peaceable community on Skool and meet us there on the day.
Once you’ve joined, you’ll find the event listed inside the community with the joining link and reminders.
📅 Friday 6 February
⏰ 3.00–4.00 pm (UK / GMT)
💛 Free to attend – register in the community here
Once registered in Peaceable, you’ll find you can add to the event to your diary by going to the Calendar tab.