#AskAMediator Archives - Arabella Tresilian Mediation Mediation, Dispute Resolution and Conflict Management Services Mon, 02 Mar 2026 13:21:47 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 https://arabellatresilian.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/cropped-AT-_icon-1-32x32.png #AskAMediator Archives - Arabella Tresilian Mediation 32 32 Ask-A-Mediator: “How do I stop being the one in charge of the organisational dashboard?” https://arabellatresilian.com/ask-a-mediator-stop-being-in-charge-of-the-dashboard/ Mon, 02 Mar 2026 13:13:25 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=7231 Who’s holding the dashboard? The missing role in overwhelmed teams A CEO asked: "I’ve set up systems and processes. But the colleague who’s meant to run them… doesn’t. So I’m constantly holding the dashboard in my head. How do I stop being the one who keeps everything together?" Arabella replies:  When you tell me “I’ve [...]

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]]> Ask-A-Mediator:  “They say yes… then nothing happens. How do I stop ‘chasing’?” https://arabellatresilian.com/ask-a-mediator-about-managing-without-chasing/ Thu, 26 Feb 2026 13:50:18 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=7223 At my recent live event, a COO asked me for my thoughts on managing without ‘chasing’ A COO asks: "I’m a COO in a start-up professional services company. We’re growing at pace, and it needs the whole team to contribute. I tell people what needs to be done, they agree - and then they don’t [...]

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]]> Owning your conflict style https://arabellatresilian.com/owning-your-conflict-style/ Tue, 10 Feb 2026 14:17:58 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=7199 Owning your conflict style Owning your conflict style Small, realistic shifts for better conversations, repair and human connection When I ran a recent Peaceable live session called Own your conflict style [watch here], I invited people to do something very simple - and brave. To gently bring to mind a real disagreement. A [...]

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]]> Keep the brain in mind https://arabellatresilian.com/keeping-the-brain-in-mind/ Fri, 06 Feb 2026 18:01:45 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=7178 Keep the brain in mind A Peaceable session on neuropsychology, conflict, and learning to work with your nervous system. You can either watch the webinar or read my article below. Here are my session slides as illustrations for those who prefer to read.  https://youtu.be/71FLv4zj0Os Peaceable exists because our aim is to go beyond conflict. [...]

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]]> Live online webinar – Pivot to a Future Focus – 06 March at 2pm GMT https://arabellatresilian.com/pivot-to-a-future-focus/ Fri, 06 Feb 2026 17:16:34 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=7173 Pivot to a Future Focus 🧭 Live online webinar  📅 Friday 6 March ⏰ 2.00 pm (UK / GMT) 📍 Live on Zoom on this Zoom link 💛 Cost: Free live online session  You don’t need to book. If you would like reminders and access to previous recordings, you can register inside my free Peaceable [...]

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]]> Live webinar: Keep the brain in mind – Fri 06th Feb at 3pm (GMT) https://arabellatresilian.com/live-webinar-keep-the-brain-in-mind-fri-06th-feb-at-3pm-gmt/ Mon, 02 Feb 2026 12:54:29 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=7169 Keep the brain in mind 🧠 Live online event 📅 Friday 6 February ⏰ 3.00–4.00 pm (UK / GMT) 📍 Live online – inside the free Peaceable community on Skool 💛 Cost: Free - register here and then go to the Calendar to add to your own calendar Keep the brain in mind A gentle, [...]

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]]> Tips for Neuroinclusive Conflict Management https://arabellatresilian.com/tips-for-neuroinclusive-conflict-management/ Fri, 09 May 2025 09:50:50 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=6550 Neuroinclusive conflict management is simply about making conflict resolution accessible, effective, and supportive for all participants  By Arabella Tresilian: Health & Care Mediator, Coach and Trainer - and neurodivergent person Neurodivergent individuals - including those who are autistic, ADHDers, dyslexic, or have sensory processing differences - may experience conflict resolution differently.  Here are my five [...]

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]]> AskAMediator: What is the difference between the three types of mediation – transformative, facilitative and evaluative https://arabellatresilian.com/askamediator-what-is-the-difference-between-the-three-types-of-mediation-transformative-facilitative-and-evaluative/ Sun, 28 Apr 2024 22:43:24 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=6318 AskAMediator: What is the difference between the three types of mediation - transformative, facilitative and evaluative? Great question! The three types of mediation - transformative, facilitative, and evaluative - differ primarily in their focus, approach, and the role of the mediator. Transformative Mediation: Focus: Transformative mediation emphasises empowerment and recognition. It focuses on empowering parties [...]

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]]> #AskAMediator☝️| You’re in a difficult conversation. How can you use assertiveness and confidence to manage it? https://arabellatresilian.com/askamediator-assertiveness-and-confidence/ Tue, 12 Mar 2024 12:21:11 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=6307 #AskAMediator☝️| You're in a difficult conversation. How can you use assertiveness and confidence to manage it? Assertiveness and confidence is sometimes as 'simple' (and as elusive) as asking for what we want. When matters are difficult to discuss, we can end up endlessly describing the problem (telling them what we don't want) instead of suggesting [...]

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]]> #AskAMediator☝️| ⏱️ “Is there a lot of preparatory work before you start a mediation? What kind of thing happens?” https://arabellatresilian.com/askamediator-preparatory-work-before-you-start-a-mediation/ Mon, 15 Jan 2024 07:07:57 +0000 https://arabellatresilian.com/?p=6229 #AskAMediator☝️| ⏱️ “Is there a lot of preparatory work before you start a mediation? What kind of thing happens?” Effective preparation by the mediator before we start a mediation helps ensure a successful outcome. Here are some key aspects of the preparatory work that a mediator may undertake before the parties come together for their [...]

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